Zoya could never be a blessing for me, and temporary blessings like her have been coming and going in my life. they always taught me one lesson or the other: ‘an anubhav for Anubhav’. She never understood the depth of my love, the value of my love, and how I would have given her everything in the world. She never knew how much I could dive into or rise out of that love.
Some lessons that I learnt from this:
- » If you love someone, you need to have the patience to keep up with it. You will eventually have that person in your life. But if that person doesn’t come into your life, don’t waste another moment on it and move on with your life.
- » It is important to love someone, but everything is supposed to be done in moderate amounts. You wouldn’t ever like too much pepper in your dish, would you? So why give attention, love, and care more than is needed? If you keep giving more than is necessary, you will end up losing your value and eventually all your love and care will be taken for granted.
- » Do not stay available for a person every second of every day. You need to focus on your own life, your career, your personality. Keep them with you forever. People will keep coming and going in your life, but you will have to stay with you, so make sure that your future is bearable.
- » Don’t look for happiness in other people. You never know when they will change, and when the situation will change in such a manner that they have to leave. Be your own happiness.
- » Don’t put your expectations on anyone, if they’re giving you something, accept it; if they don’t then don’t expect it. It’s all about ACCEPTING and EXPECTING. Be responsible for your own happiness.
- » Time is really precious, don’t waste it. On a person or a thing. Make the most of the time you have right now.
- » Keep up with your self-respect, do not ever let it down, and never in front of a person. If you do so, that person will lose all their respect for you. Keep your respect in your own hands.
- » You will definitely be important for someone, but that won’t stay the same or last forever.
- » Do not ever ruin your friendships for a person who entered your life recently. Friends are really important, they will support you and guide you. Keep your love life and friendships separate. the day you mix them, you’ll end up losing one or the other.
- » Do not fall in love with someone blindly, nor trust anyone blindly. The more you put your trust in someone, the more are the chances of being hurt immensely.
- » Every person that enters, stays or leaves your life, teaches you a lesson. Do not keep any hatred in your heart. It’s your heart, fill it with love and not hate.
- » Karma comes back to you in this life, so make sure that you don’t hurt anyone intentionally or unintentionally.
- » The way we accept people, we have to be accepted in the same way.
- » You can never forget someone, but after a while it stops creating an impact on your heart and mind. Hence,
- » Give time the time to heal you. I am sure you will feel better. I learnt many more lessons like this before Zoya came into my life, and after she left me. I never turned around to look back at Zoya after that night. I wouldn’t say that I had no pain or hurt about it; I did, but I didn’t let it control me.