Please Yourself

By Emma Reed Turrell

About the book

We are all people-pleasers in one way or another – even those who deny it. Whether at work, home or in our relationships, we all know how it feels to want people to like us. The problem comes when we give up our own needs along the way. In this life-changing book, psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell explains the different ‘types’ of peoplepleaser and provides practical, reassuring advice on how to better understand – and stop – peoplepleasing behaviour when it starts to affect your own needs. Please Yourself will help you care for others in the right way – and ultimately, help you take better care of yourself. • The essential handbook for self-confessed people pleasers as well as those who might not initially think of themselves in this way. People pleasing is a hot topic in podcasts and on social media, but there has been no book by a British author that specifically addresses it, until  now. • Ranging from people pleasing as a child, at work, as a parent, in friendships, in relationships and in families Please Yourself holds up a mirror to the habits and strategies we adopt to make people like us and offers a roadmap to liberate us from them. • Like Philippa Perry and Stephen Grosz. Emma uses case studies of clients she has worked with to reveal and explore the many facets of people pleasing, from the damage it can do, to the positive changes that are made by rethinking the way we care about other people. • Emma is a fantastic speaker and advocate for her ‘Please Yourself’ approach. She works with individuals and with corporations as a therapist – so there is a soft business side to this book too. • Rights have been sold in 10 territories around the world, which speaks to the book’s universal appeal. ‘Utterly brilliant. Emma Reed-Turrell is a wonderful writer, a compassionate guide and the therapist we all long for. Every page of Please Yourself contains a truth bomb; every sentence a golden nugget of wisdom. If you’re a people-pleaser (and you probably are) this book will change your life. My only regret is that it didn’t exist earlier as it would have saved me – and everyone else – a whole lot of bother’ Elizabeth Day, author of How to Fail ‘Even if you don’t think of yourself as a people pleaser, it turns out you’ve been pleasing everyone your entire life! Prepare for some home truths and some life changing advice’ Cosmopolitan ‘As a recovering people-pleaser who often falls back into its tempting trap, I absolutely loved this book. Informative, entertaining and empowering’ Emma Gannon, author of Olive ‘A helpful, reassuring book that will give you insight into discovering your no is even more valuable than your yes. And in discovering it you’ll find you like yourself more and others will too…’ Julia Samuel, author of This Too Shall Pass ‘Realistic, non-judgemental and genuinely helpful: your one way ticket to growing a backbone. It took me decades to learn why I people pleased and how to stop. Thanks to Emma Reed Turrell, you don’t need to wait that long’ Sam Baker, author of The Shif